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I am in to singing and hollywood and all that stuff, but my friend lives for broadway. Personally, I can’t stand their voices. But we are friends nonetheless. But once I showed her my secret songwriting book and now she tells everyone that she writes songs! I don’t like to tell people about it, but hers are awful! She wants a totally different career though! And after I start guitar, she starts too! She bought the same scarf as me, and when I was wearing keds, she bought some that day! I like the jonas brothers, she starts liking them too! There are even more instances too. But she’s really nice around everyone, but she snaps at me sometimes, really throwing me off gaurd. And her and her mother are always gossiping around about other people and how the girls at her other school are mean, and I’m starting to wonder why she really transferred to my school. I can’t do something mean, because they have ties to the theater director and they tell things about people to her, which changes her thoughts about casting them. They will gossip about anyone who upsets them. What do I do??
Recently, my mom was talking about how she found her old silver concho belt that looked really cute on me. it is original and no one else wears things like that, but it’s still in style. when my mom was telling another mom about it (who has 3 boys and likes to talk about my girl life), my friend’s mom overheard them talking about it, and she had a different, but very similar belt that she gave to her!! She wore it on the same day I did, and she knew it was my mom’s!! Everything else that she has copied me on was not that bad, but this one CROSSED THE LINE!!!! I was so excited about the belt how original it was and I was really proud to wear it until I saw her. I went home crying because I don’t feel special anymore and I WAS SOO EXCITED ABOUT IT!!! It’s TERRIBLE!!!! She doesn’t even seem to care about it at ALL!!!!
Wow. This girl and her mother sound like two pieces of work. Relating to that, it’s probably not your friend’s fault that she feels the need to copy everything you do. Her mother seems to have raised her to believe gossiping and manipulation is the best way to get what you want.
This girl is probably copying everything you do because she admires you. I know everyone on this site will tell you that, but I’m also giving you other options. She could be trying to assume a role in her new school and liked yours–so naturally, she became your friend and is now trying to assume your role. It’s a pretty simple explanation.
Looking towards the future–this girl and her mother seem like bad news. You already seem annoyed with her, and you say that she made you feel terrible when she came to school wearing the same belt as you did. Is there something about this girl that makes you even want to be her friend anymore? Because, frankly, the copying habit seems to only be a start to her bad behavior. My guess is that copying will turn to jealousy, and that jealousy will result in her gossiping about you behind your back. I’m just elaborating, but it’s something to consider when you think of your future at school with this girl.
Hope I helped!
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October 29th, 2009 at 2:05 am
Smack a bitch
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October 29th, 2009 at 2:49 am
Tell her to cut it the hell out!
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October 29th, 2009 at 2:55 am
Just feel flattered!
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October 29th, 2009 at 3:33 am
You can get over it and stop caring about what she does.
OR
You could slap her.
Your choice.
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October 29th, 2009 at 3:43 am
Feel flattered that she wants to be like you, you cant do anythinge else.
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October 29th, 2009 at 4:03 am
Your friend admires you. Copying your actions is a form of flattery. I know you don’t want that kind of flattery but she has chosen to model herself after you because she looks up to you.
Just enjoy it. She will probably move on eventually.
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October 29th, 2009 at 4:52 am
Take it as a compliment. I know it can be irritating, but imitation is a very high form of flattery.
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October 29th, 2009 at 5:35 am
just say very nicely. "i’m NOT trying to sound rude at all but, why do you start doing the same things as i do whenever i start to? like when ever i try something new you have to try too? sometimes i might want a little space…then just bee like i’m really glad we are friends but i think that sometimes you copy me…" see how it works!!
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experience myself!!
October 29th, 2009 at 6:23 am
gush sounds like u r starting to become frenemis so instead of being mad and all just be glad yall have a lot in common
o yea if u tell her u might become not friends animore so i sujest not jus leave her copying you and she will stop once shes not intimidaated by u anymore
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October 29th, 2009 at 7:01 am
wow thats a tuf one
well if she messes you up you mess her up she seem that she wants to be you. I hate it when people do that all me and my friends are so different but we are all best friends. my best friend is more sporty prep and im more sporty skater type. when we copy each other we get pissed. just tell her she needs to know that she copies all that you do and you dont like it. even do something that she hates and if she then turns around and does it thats messed up. Tell her that you love her to death cuz shes your friend but she needs to be her own person. posers just get to screwed up in the head
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October 29th, 2009 at 7:09 am
If I were you I would be humbled by the fact that someone wants to be like me. I did have a friend who did something like this, but instead of copying me she would purposely argue. I honestly felt like every time I had an opinion she would want to start an argument by creating a conflicting opinion, even if I knew it wasn’t how she really felt. It got the point where I just agreed with everything she said, and I think she hated that I always told her she was right so she stopped. Its probably just her way of dealing with insecurites, there might be a deeper reason behind all this then what you think. Id say plan a girls night, and tell her that you think shes been acting different lately. Ask her if theres anything wrong, and if she gets defensive drop the subject. It will let her know that you care without prying for information, and when shes ready to talk she will.
hope it helps!
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October 29th, 2009 at 7:54 am
You’re in a bit of bind here. Firstly imitation is one of the sincerest forms of flattery, so i suppose that is nice and it means your friend is probably not gossiping about you. It sounds like she really likes you. A similar thing happened to me when i was in school and what I realized was that it was only me that noticed it with my friend. I was really into this band the Pixies and then my friend started listening to them and he bought the same band shirt as me, but it only bugged me when he did it. Once the whole school started paying the Pixies to death, i realized it only bothered me with my friend because him and and i were close friends and it was more obvious to me I suppose. Anyway I rambling. I guess what im saying is if you’re friend is copying everything you do it really isn’t worth worrying about to much. Try to chill a bit more and you’ll be surprised how much less you notice it.
Anyway good luck and if that fails start pretending to be really interested in really weird and eclectic things. it ill be harder for her to copy that sort of stuff without being obvious. Start talking about French New Wave Bands of the 1970’s and see how she copies that.
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October 29th, 2009 at 8:02 am
Wow. This girl and her mother sound like two pieces of work. Relating to that, it’s probably not your friend’s fault that she feels the need to copy everything you do. Her mother seems to have raised her to believe gossiping and manipulation is the best way to get what you want.
This girl is probably copying everything you do because she admires you. I know everyone on this site will tell you that, but I’m also giving you other options. She could be trying to assume a role in her new school and liked yours–so naturally, she became your friend and is now trying to assume your role. It’s a pretty simple explanation.
Looking towards the future–this girl and her mother seem like bad news. You already seem annoyed with her, and you say that she made you feel terrible when she came to school wearing the same belt as you did. Is there something about this girl that makes you even want to be her friend anymore? Because, frankly, the copying habit seems to only be a start to her bad behavior. My guess is that copying will turn to jealousy, and that jealousy will result in her gossiping about you behind your back. I’m just elaborating, but it’s something to consider when you think of your future at school with this girl.
Hope I helped!
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